I have been writing emotional articles for three years and have many blog posts. Before writing today, think about what articles you have not written about relationships.

Writing emotional series regularly has become a habit of mine. Because I have seen many people, and when the male and female guests met with me, they told me their emotional views without reservation, letting me know what many people really think in their hearts; therefore, if these thoughts are not made public, I think it is too wasteful, so if I remember, I would also like to share more to help more people.

After thinking for a while, I realized that there is a topic that I have not formally written about, which is what men and women should pay attention to when dating for the first time.

I encourage everyone to make friends online. Although the friends you make may not necessarily meet your requirements, it is always better to “give yourself more opportunities.”

If you meet a man who has “other purposes”, the worst he can do is to knock you out after just one date. He will never forcefully take you to a quiet place with few people on your first date.

When you meet new friends, you will naturally have a first date. So what should you pay attention to when dating?

The first date is actually very important; if you don’t behave well, you won’t take two at any time. Many people don’t know the techniques and think that on the first date, you can just be yourself and do whatever you want, but that’s not the case. Relationships between men and women have their own techniques, and so do first dates. I’m going to share them with you here, and I guarantee that you can use them.

I teach you four English words, namely Balance, Focus, Interesting, and Smile.

Balance

Do you know the importance of balance? On the first date, whether it is clothing or conversation, you must make a balance, no more, no less; the same goes for everything.

I’ve seen some girls dress casually on their first date. T-shirts, jeans and sneakers are indeed very comfortable, but on a first date, just like meeting a job, you have to make a good impression.

The alternative is you, what would you do if a boy only wore T-Shirt jeans on your first date? Although the other party is sincere, you always feel that it is not pleasing to your eyes.

Having said that, I also recommend that you don’t overdress. I have been to a Speed ​​Dating before, and what impressed me the most was a girl. How exaggerated was her dress? When I first saw her entering the venue, I thought she was a tarot master invited by the conference; her clothes and matching, in Cantonese, she dressed like a “goddess”.

The whole outfit looks like that of a demon queen who arrived in Egypt, and with some long necklaces, the only thing missing is a crystal ball.

When I was talking to her, in Cantonese, it was “jiu bu ta ba”, and within two sentences I already wanted to stop talking.

What impressed me the most was the final matching project. I remember her result was that no one wanted to be paired with her.

This shows how your clothes affect other people’s impression of you.

Another important meaning of Balance is the issue of wearing more or less.

If you dress too revealingly, others will think you are too open and casual. Even if you are not a casual person, others will think you are “easily conquered” based on your clothes. But what about showing too little? And you can’t arouse other people’s interest in you.

Therefore, “how much to reveal” is also a question of first date.

I suggest that it would be best to show one or two places. A top with a medium V-neck, a heart pendant, a short skirt, and high heels, perfect!

Too deep V will make boys look at your chest unconsciously throughout the meal, and you will feel unnatural; so don’t wear deep V, close-fitting clothes are still okay.

For example, when wearing a shirt, remember to unbutton one more button. This is etiquette. I don’t understand why girls insist on buttoning up all the buttons when wearing a shirt. It is marked in international etiquette. But maybe we are Chinese or Asian. People, people will always be a little conservative in their thinking. If you are in Europe, this is a very common thing.

Focus

Focus means concentration, and the focus mentioned here is the concentration on the date; you must focus on what the other person says, because every word and movement of the other person may be your clues, helping you to go out on the right path. step.

I have seen many girls whose concentration is very weak, and I have also seen them miss many opportunities.

Not being attentive may be called “I’m not too sensitive” in the euphemistic name, but in fact it means not being attentive enough.

Everything the other party does has a meaning or purpose behind it. Think about the purpose behind it and do what the other party wants. You don’t have to wait for the other party to say something. You have already done it and you will get extra points.

When the other person is looking at the table while eating, he must be looking for something, such as a fork. For example, if a plate is missing, you can help him get it first, or you can ask the waiter to come over.

After the meal, if the other person looks at the table, he must be looking for a toothpick. If you can help him get it quickly, you can get extra points.

If the other party looks at the watch, it means that the other party wants to leave. You can ask to pay the bill first, and you will get extra points.

Focus hard on what’s in front of you, focus hard on the person in front of you, and you’ll see a lot of things you couldn’t see before.

On a first date, you should also focus on taking note of the other person’s preferences, which will come in handy in the future. For example, if the other person drinks coffee without sugar or eats steak medium rare, remember this. Next time you go to a Western restaurant, you can help the other person place the correct order. , the other person will feel that you value him.

Interesting

Interesting means making the other person think you are “very interesting”.

Interesting can be in many aspects, including expressions, body language, and content of speech.

“People with positive thinking are easy to find interesting; people with negative thinking are easy to find boring.”

Remember what I say carefully, and I guarantee that it will be useful throughout your life.

Today at noon, two guests came, which gave me a great feeling.

The two female guests are both young and beautiful. They are over five feet seven inches tall, and they look very eye-catching when they come out.

However, one female client dated very rarely, while another female client dated a lot. They had positive thoughts and negative thoughts respectively.

“Same hardware, but different software, the functions can be very different.”

The female guest with negative thoughts kept radiating negative energy. I’m thinking that if I do date a boy, my chances of seeing him again will be greatly reduced.

On the contrary, I thought the female guest who had a positive mind was very interesting. After the discussion, I asked her a lot of questions. Why? Because under the principle of “equivalent exchange”, she has a lot of things to exchange with me.

She was working in marketing for a large company, and she was very modest, saying that she was a junior and her labor was not high. But I thought to myself, even if she was away from Hong Kong for three weeks every month, her rank would not be that bad.

She said a lot of things I didn’t know. For example, on Weibo, she taught me a lot of marketing techniques, which I have used throughout my life.

There are other “how to market yourself” techniques that I’m also interested in knowing. She also taught me to go to a website where I can see the Ranking on my own network, which is very interesting.

Of course, I wasn’t dating her. But I firmly believe that when a boy goes on a date with her, there will be endless topics to talk about.

Do you have any interesting topics of your own? Boys should pay more attention to finance and real estate. If you have knowledge in this area, you must have some knowledge.

Even if you don’t know them, if they talk about these topics and you are interested in listening and asking the right questions at the right time, that’s already good.

Appropriate compliments can also make the other person think you are an “interesting person.”

“All boys hope that the girls around them will treat them as idols.”

Even if it’s as simple as asking the waiter to bring you a knife, you can praise him “You’re very careful”!

During the first date, find one or two topics to express your appreciation for the other person’s opinions, and the other person will definitely accept it happily.

Smile

I don’t need to say more about this. No matter whether it’s a boy or a girl, many people will end up with “no smile” and will not get the ticket to “date again”.

I have said before that smile is very important. It stands for cordiality, acceptance, welcome, friendliness. I strongly suggest you practice smiling; there is a big difference between you knowing how to smile and not knowing how to smile.

With a smile and Eye Contact, I can say that your chances of success are at least doubled.

Have you encountered problems in your relationship or career? In fact, it may not be that your destiny is bad, it’s just that you don’t know your overall life blueprint and destiny trajectory. In my opinion, as long as you find your own direction, there is no problem A person is an unlucky person. It is better to clearly understand his own strengths and weaknesses and move towards his goals than to blindly speculate about his destiny. There is some deviation.