About Love and Marriage

From Love to Marriage:

Are the people around us the same as they were from the beginning, or how do you view the relationship between love and marriage? Below are selected articles on love and marriage that I have compiled for you, hoping to be of use to you!

Selected Article 1 on Love and Marriage: Reflections on Love and Marriage

Author: Yilian Youmeng Heji

Love is a flower, marriage is the fruit.
Love is beautiful, marriage is practical.
Not all flowers bear fruit, but all fruits were once flowers.

Love is like a book; if you don’t read it carefully, you won’t be happy. If you read it too intently, you might suffer.
Marriage is like a painting; if you stand too close or too far, the happiness index will be low. Only at the proper distance can you see the happiness you desire.

Love needs purity, marriage needs tolerance. The key lies in balance; too much of anything is harmful. If the water is too clear, no fish can survive; if love demands too much purity, true love may pass you by. If marriage is too tolerant, it becomes indulgence, and one party will suffer. Moderation and appropriateness are profound and high-level knowledge.

Love is burning, marriage is grinding.
Love adds color to marriage, marriage fades the color of love.
Love stores passion, marriage consumes the enthusiasm of love.
Love is lightning and thunder, marriage is a gentle rain and breeze.
Love is fresh seafood, marriage is everyday home-cooked food.
Love is a finely polished jade, marriage is an uncarved stone.

Marriage and love sometimes go hand in hand, and sometimes they turn against each other. If they go hand in hand, there will be happiness; if they turn against each other, they may become enemies.
A marriage without love is certainly unhappy; love without marriage is like a tree without roots, it cannot flourish for long.

Love longs to enter the bag of marriage, but the bag of marriage is already filled with too many things. If something sharp or angular gets in, it might squeeze or scratch the love. Love is like fresh fruit; if not carefully nurtured, it will mold and shrink.

Love is like a mirage, beautiful but somewhat illusory; love is also like the night-blooming cereus, a long wait for a brief bloom, which seems not worth it. But Lady White waited a thousand years for this illusion, and the Cowherd and Weaver Girl have been lingering by the Milky Way for countless years, silently enjoying their quiet happiness.

Some things in this world are hard to explain. Things with a price do not necessarily have value, and things with value do not necessarily have a price. For example, sunlight—who can say how much a ray costs? Or air—who can say how much a breath costs? But everything on Earth, including people, cannot live without them, even for a second. Not everything can be measured with the logic of a businessman, such as emotions.

For people, emotions are priceless—parental love, romantic love, friendship. These are more important than money, but what is their price? If you try to put a price on them, you desecrate them. When money deals with emotions, it must be handled carefully. Money can enhance emotions, but it can also destroy them. Used properly, money is an angel; used improperly, it is a demon.

Love and marriage are like ever-changing math problems. Not only are there multiple variations, but there are also multiple solutions. If you lack divergent thinking or fail to draw inferences, they often become unsolvable problems, even dead knots. On the contrary, if you approach them well, you will find many paths leading to Rome, interconnected and broad.

The same problem presents different levels of difficulty to different people. If you are knowledgeable and well-read, no problem will stump you. But if you have only an elementary or middle school education, or are even illiterate, then it becomes a towering mountain before you, no matter how hard you try, you can only look at it and sigh.

A TV show once said that there are three indispensable things when transitioning from love to marriage: the feeling of love, the ability to love, and the wisdom of love. But these three mountains are each taller than the last. Considering our physical strength, how many of these mountains can we climb in a lifetime? Compared to marriage, love is easier because it only requires climbing the first mountain to attain it. But for a happy marriage, both partners must climb all three mountains together, and keeping in sync is not easy. This is like what Mencius said: it’s not that one doesn’t want to, but that one cannot. Therefore, love is often perfect, and marriage is often a compromise.

Love is easy, marriage is not; cherish each step along the way.

Selected Article 2 on Love and Marriage: Love and Marriage

Author: Thoughts under the Bodhi Tree

In life, everyone goes through the trilogy of falling in love, getting married, and having children. Because love and marriage are stages we must pass through on our life journey, people are always searching for their dream lover, hoping to spend the most beautiful time of their life with someone they deeply love.

However, while romantic love is often the same, the reality of marriage is different for everyone.

Not every couple in love can walk into the hall of marriage, and not every married couple can grow old together.

Love and marriage are different. Love is an emotion unbound by law, while marriage is a legally protected form of love. Generally, when a couple is deeply in love, they find it easy to get along, showing tolerance and humility. But in marriage, couples often argue intensely over small matters in daily life, refusing to back down.

In the world of love, men and women are immersed in the dreamy, romantic world of love, full of poetic and sentimental moments, without having to worry about practical life issues like food, clothing, shelter, raising children, or financial matters.

But marriage is grounded in the reality of life, dealing with issues like making a living and achieving success, which you must face every day. The level of monthly family income, and the amount of effort put into household chores, directly affect the happiness index of married life.

After getting married and living together for a long time, a person’s true nature begins to reveal itself. Especially after having children, the love between a couple may diminish as much of their emotional energy is devoted to their children. The love they have for their children is selfless, while the love between partners may become more mundane. At home, each partner wants some status, hoping to gain face in front of the children. In social activities, both partners want some dignity, hoping to impress colleagues and friends with their marriage.

Love and marriage are different. In love, people show their best sides to their partner—polite, cultured, efficient, willing to do anything to please the other. But in marriage, things change because both feel secure, thinking neither can easily leave the other. Gradually, human flaws begin to surface—procrastination, breaking promises, laziness, sloppiness, not doing household chores, and so on.

If love during courtship is earned through careful effort, marriage will reveal your true nature. Whether you are truly devoted to love will be evident after marriage. But for the one who gives their heart, this could be the most tragic cost of their life.

Love and marriage are different. When lovers break up, it’s only an emotional separation. But when a married couple divorces, it’s both an emotional and material separation, and this entanglement may last a lifetime.

That’s why many people say, “If you can avoid breaking up, don’t.” Because anyone who walks into the hall of marriage must have a certain emotional foundation, and often there are children involved. If a marriage is in trouble, it’s better to open your heart and calmly talk it out, pointing out each other’s strengths and weaknesses. If both partners can correct their flaws, isn’t that better than finding an unknown new partner?

People often say: “A marriage without love is unfortunate; a marriage with love is painful.” But I hope everyone can have both love and marriage.

May all lovers in the world fully enjoy the warmth and sweetness of love! May all those in love end up together, living a happy and joyful life!

Selected Article 3 on Love and Marriage: From Love to Marriage

Author: Hai Zhilong—Lin

A writer once said: “Love endows everything with charm.”

Isn’t that true? Those struck by Cupid’s arrow experience a strange energy and mysterious power. It can develop into something as beautiful and grand as towering mountains, almost incomparable in its ability to bring immense excitement—it’s humanity’s greatest, most powerful, and most hopeful emotion. It is the medicine that heals the most severe wounds in humans. It is also the silent messenger found in every corner of the world.

Everyone hopes to receive the happiness of love in their lives. Love is our beautiful yearning. Everyone hopes that their other half is the most perfect lover in the world. However, reality is reality. There is no perfect lover as in the myths.

So, what is true love? What is the essence of love? No one can say for sure, as it is the most complex word in the world, with each person having their own understanding and feelings about it.

In Greek mythology, there is a god specifically for love. She is Aphrodite, the embodiment of love and beauty, which influenced the fact that “beauty” is an unavoidable factor when choosing a mate. Thus, love and beauty are inseparable. There is also a handsome young man named Cupid, who has wings and can fly anywhere, using love arrows to strike mortals. Once you are struck, you will feel the overwhelming joy and enthusiasm of love. He is the god of love.

These stories have provided various explanations for love from different perspectives. The influence of romanticism on modern people has been immense. Romanticism in love leads to an illusory and glorious image of love, often leading us into romantic fantasies. This causes us to look at love through rose-colored glasses, often making us forget the reality of marriage.

Love is pure and true, the beautiful yearning for love is worthy of pursuit, and it can bring sweetness to people. However, the reality is that love cannot always be like this, as it has to enter the palace of marriage. After the passion of love fades, it becomes an ordinary day-to-day life.

Some people say that love is a beautiful illusion, while marriage is a realistic poem. You have to add your own experiences and understandings to make this poem beautiful and moving, or it will be dull and boring.

Marriage without love is incomplete, and love without marriage is unstable. The combination of love and marriage is what everyone desires.

True love has no doubt, and true love is not afraid of wind and rain. True love is not afraid of storms, true love does not disappear over time.

Realizing true love is not easy, but keeping it is even harder.

For most people, it’s about seizing the moment and understanding that “people are not perfect.” It’s also about realizing that no matter what kind of life they lead, they must have a good attitude and courage to face life’s realities, to embrace the essence of love and the sanctity of marriage.

Only with the combination of love and marriage can love become eternal and marriage become truly sacred.