I watched a TV series called “Spring Blossoms” a few days ago, which gave me a lot of feelings.
This TV series tells the story of: Ye Xiaowei fell in love with and married Yue Jianming, a handsome and elegant man, despite her parents’ strong opposition. In the tide of going abroad, the pregnant Ye Xiaowei supported her husband to go to the United States and waited for her husband to pick her up and her child. She had a difficult birth, her son was weak and sick, and she was facing layoffs. The burden of her mother-in-law and sister-in-law fell on her alone. It was difficult to make a living, forcing the arrogant Ye Xiaowei to bow her head little by little and struggle for survival. From a technician to a ticket seller, and then to a taxi driver, Ye Xiaowei is no longer the delicate girl. She is tacky, tacky, haggard, loud, and can curse at the street when she opens her mouth… However, her American dream was finally shattered. After seven or eight years of hard work, she waited for a divorce agreement. Although Xiaowei and He Zhengdong who loved her finally got together, I still felt sad. I don’t know why the screenwriter and director portrayed Xiaowei as so infatuated. She kept her nominal husband who didn’t come back for several years, but cruelly rejected Xu Zhi who was deeply in love with her. Is it really like what Ye Xiaowei said, “This is my fate. People can’t fight fate. I must bear it!” Or is it that the director and screenwriter want to prove the saying “Since ancient times, infatuated women have been unfaithful men”? However, I always think this old saying is very one-sided. There are many infatuated women, and they have always been the objects of people’s praise, but are there no unfaithful women and infatuated men? Thinking of this, I can’t help but think of my darling.
Han is a netizen I added unintentionally. Through chatting, I can see that he is a very talented person. Not only can he make a poem or lyrics in a very short few minutes, but he also shamelessly asked me to test him with questions, and said that history, geography, Chinese, traditional Chinese medicine, and current affairs commentary are all OK. This made me very curious about his academic qualifications, but the answer was beyond my expectation. He didn’t even finish junior high school. When talking about his knowledge, he attributed it to his father who was a teacher, and to his ex-girlfriend who he still misses – Yiyi. Yiyi was a girl he met online six years ago. The situation on that day is still as clear as if it was yesterday. At midnight that day, he couldn’t sleep while working away from home, so he went to the Internet cafe. In the Internet cafe, except for a small number of people chatting, most people were playing games. He was not interested in games and wanted to find someone to chat with, so he started to search according to the conditions. Suddenly, a beautiful name jumped into his eyes. He asked to add her without hesitation, but she said that she would answer three questions before agreeing to add her. Being young and energetic and relying on some talent, he accepted her challenge. The first question “What is Qi Baishi good at painting” was not difficult. He answered “shrimp” and passed the level smoothly. The second question was not so simple. She actually asked him to write a seven-character quatrain in a few minutes. Although it is difficult for ordinary people, it is worth a try for him who has been influenced by his father who is a Chinese teacher since childhood. After thinking for three minutes, he typed “The fallen leaves paved the path and walked under the moon, the ground was covered with autumn frost and the wind blew. The maple leaves were red and the night was quiet. I suddenly heard a song. Who would tell me about the love on the Internet?” Although the four sentences were not very rhymed, she generously said “barely passed”, which greatly boosted his confidence. The third question she sent was a poem she wrote herself. When she asked him what it meant, it certainly didn’t stump him. So, of course, they became netizens and knew why she was still online in the middle of the night. It turned out that she and her boyfriend had a car accident together. Her boyfriend unfortunately died, and she also suffered from headaches and fear of the dark, so she often went online at night.
They chatted very speculatively that night, and they reluctantly parted until dawn. Before leaving, they exchanged names with each other, and Han remembered this girl named Yiyi.
From then on, Han’s daily life suddenly changed from the original lifeless to full of vitality. He began to worry about this weak girl. Whenever Yiyi had a headache at night, she would not be able to sleep all night, and Han would accompany her all night. She wrote poems, and he wrote poems with her. Yiyi, who was also in a period of mental collapse, was also deeply attracted by this straightforward, passionate and talented man.
As time went by, they naturally walked from the Internet to reality, and the small house rented by Han naturally became a witness to their love. Those days were the happiest time in Han’s life. The beautiful and gentle Yiyi taught him to paint, play the piano, and how to do business. She also took out her own money to subsidize the family and asked Han to save his hard-earned money to start a business. Sometimes Yiyi was also very naughty. She would find some works of poets and lyricists and ask him to recite them. After reciting, she would cook a table of sumptuous meals to reward him. And Han sometimes taught her to practice calligraphy and wrote “Hundred Flowers” poems for her.
Good days always seem to pass by very quickly. They have known each other for two years. They also thought about getting married. However, how could Yiyi’s parents, who were well-off, marry their beloved daughter to a “poor boy” who had no career? There was no way, they could only wait! At that time, Han worked hard every day from dawn to dusk. Although the small business was small, it also had a certain profit.
That day, Han’s business was surprisingly smooth. He excitedly ran back to his hut, wanting to share this happiness with Yiyi, but unexpectedly found that Yiyi was gone, and only a few of his clothes were left hanging alone in the closet. He frantically called her mobile phone over and over again, and the answer he got was always “The number you dialed is out of service”; he went online to look for it, but the cute avatar never lit up again; Han, who ran all over the streets and alleys, finally had to pin his hopes on Yiyi’s parents, but his parents’ answer made him want to die.
Memories are sweet, but memories are also painful; recalling the painful past, Han still felt heartbroken.
That day, Han had no other choice but to go to her home. Her parents were so annoyed by him that they told him that she went to Australia to study with her aunt. At that time, he was completely desperate. He returned home in a daze and fell ill the next day. He had a high fever and was talking nonsense. He lay in the hospital for three days. It was his mother’s tears that made him give up his plan to die. Because he knew that since his father passed away, the mother and son had been dependent on each other. He was her only son, her only spiritual support, and her sky. For his mother and to find the truth one day, he forced himself to get through that painful period. “Yes! The power of maternal love is infinite!” I said to him with emotion. “I know that with her personality, if she wants to break up, she will tell me. So I have been waiting and looking for the truth. ” “How many years have you been waiting?” “Six years!” “No news?” “No, we still communicated and talked on the phone in the first year. But in the fourth year, she suddenly disappeared. I tried desperately to find her, but her family began to avoid me. “
“What happened next?”
“Later I heard that she got a green card and got married there.”
“Oh, it’s not easy for her to live in a foreign country, and it’s normal to get married. Besides, the distance between you is not so easy to solve.”
“Yes, sometimes I think so, but I just can’t forget her. I long for her to appear again. I’m still waiting! Maybe I’m stupid, but this is my last hope and the strength that supports me!”
“Nowadays, there are not many men as infatuated as you.”
“I don’t know if this is infatuation. My friends said that some marriages have nothing to do with love. My mother always urged me to find someone to marry quickly. My relatives and friends enthusiastically introduced several to me, but unfortunately I didn’t feel anything. Facing them, I felt like I was betraying her, and I couldn’t accept it.”
“Alas, what is love in the world? It makes people stay together for life and death!”
“Yes, people who haven’t experienced it can’t understand it! “But, we live, not only need love, but also more responsibilities and obligations!” “Yes, you are right. As a man, you should also have a career! I used to be a wage earner with nothing, but now I have my own career and everything, but I still miss the past days. Now I can finally fly in the blue sky, but I am just flying alone. I miss her! When I miss her, my heart hurts, and it hurts my heart!” Han said in contradiction and pain. “There is such a sentence I like very much, and now I give it to you: remember what you should remember, forget what you should forget, change what you can change, and accept what you cannot change!” “Thank you! I understand what you mean, maybe I should really find someone to marry!” “You are welcome!” “No, I really thank you! This matter has been weighing on my chest, and it has made me breathless. I feel much better after talking to you today!” “That’s good, I hope you can find your happiness as soon as possible, your mother is still waiting to hold her grandchildren! “I said with a hint of mischief.
“I will move to Shenyang soon, which is closer to her home. I bought a store and a building there. She taught me everything, and I became her shadow. But I will try to accept others, not only for me, but also for my mother and for all those who care about me!” Han said confidently.
“It’s good that you think this way! I wish you happiness!”
“Thank you! Thank you for listening to me! Thank you for your guidance!” Han said to me sincerely.
Han’s love journey is not smooth, but it is great, but not all great love can be transformed into marriage. This made me think of my own love. Although it was not vigorous, but ordinary, it successfully evolved into marriage. I think a woman who can make her first love and her husband become one person should be simple and happy! Instead of believing that “life is precious, love is more precious”, I would rather believe that “it takes a hundred years to cross the same boat, and a thousand years to sleep on the same pillow.” “I think marriage is the fate of two people. There are traces of it on the Sansheng Stone. So there is no need to “search for her thousands of times” in the vast sea of people. Just wait patiently, and when you “look back suddenly”, “that person has already been in the dim light”. This may be in line with the old saying: “If there is no fate, we will not know each other. If there is fate, we will meet each other thousands of miles away.”
For normal people, the simpler the marriage and feelings, the happier they are. People often say: it is unfortunate to have love without marriage, and it is painful to have marriage without love. I hope everyone has both love and marriage!
Articles about marriage and love: Love and marriage used to be so passionate, and after being hurt, I finally learned to be ruthless. One day, I am not so young anymore, and I still love you, but I always tell myself: I can live my own life. Only in this way, when I am disappointed and lonely, I can not shed tears, not be volatile, and smile and tell myself that it is not that you are not good to me, but that love is false. , the more passionate it was, the lonelier it is. — Zhang Xiaoxian
I suddenly want to write something about love and marriage. Maybe I feel very tired.
I think true love is not giving or taking, but relying on each other and taking responsibility for each other. Love that only gives is not true love; of course, love that only seeks return is not true love. In the world of love, although there is no fairness, it has your heart in it. If you just give blindly, and then the two of you come together, but this is not true love; if you only If you care about what he/she can give you, and you come together, this is not true love; if you two rely on each other, bear each other’s responsibility, and finally hold hands, this is true love.
In the world of love, there is no right or wrong, only willingness. If you are willing, you will be together forever, and if you are not willing, you will be together forever. Of course, this is also based on mutuality. Without “mutuality”, everything is just empty talk. “Love” is a verb, not a noun. Love is always a matter of two people. No matter how beautiful one person is, it is not love. In fact, true love will become a kind of family affection over time. Family affection will not be as vigorous as love, but it is the kind of long-term companionship; it will not fade because of time, but will accumulate deeper and deeper with time; it is a habit every moment, but not that kind of attachment. In the final analysis, family affection is the complete qualitative change of love.
Everyone has different standards for pursuing love In this way, no matter whether you are active or passive on the seesaw of love, I think you should turn it into an equal one in the end. Walking together, but not in an equal relationship, I think: this is not true love. Only when we are equal can we rely on each other and bear each other, otherwise, everything is just empty talk. In the adolescence of cherishing and understanding, we have those rebelliousness and impulses that those who have lost the passion of youth cannot have, but love and marriage can never be mentioned together. If a marriage is born out of rebellion and impulse, it is impossible to be happy. Entering into marriage is a manifestation of a person’s maturity. If you treat marriage as a joke, you will not be happy, and two people, or even a family, will be sad. Love despises the transition to marriage, but this transition period should not be too short. In other words, love can be considered as the running-in period of marriage. During the running-in period, we must know how to respect each other, so as to lay a solid foundation for the future.
Sometimes, marriage is not based on love, such as the blind date that is prevalent nowadays. In fact, love may become dispensable after experiencing marriage. A marriage without love only makes people enter the stage of family affection too early, but it lacks a little youthful excitement. When you are over thirty years old, you will feel that family affection is a spiritual enjoyment that is more important than love. At that time, I was no longer young, and when I recalled it, I was just a little less passionate, and there was no need to sigh. When we do something and love someone, we always have expectations, and we expect an ending that we desire. But reality is sometimes cruel, and often deviates from the expected track, making us disappointed in our efforts and hurt in our memories. We all think that the result is the most important, but sometimes it is just the way things end. Our greater happiness and joy are dotted on the way forward. We must accept any end calmly.
The difference between love and marriage may be that love only needs passion, and what it wants is the unforgettable feeling between two people. Marriage, however, has many trivial daily things. There is a saying in Fortress Besieged that marriage is like a pair of shoes worn on your feet, and only your toes know whether it is comfortable or not. Indeed, whether life is good or not, whether you are happy or not, only you can feel it, while the people around you can only see some one-sided paragraphs. Perhaps it is because of the relationship between body hormones, love is always full of romance and lingering, and the other person in your eyes is always the most perfect. Many love stories end with sad and beautiful endings, shocking the readers’ hearts, perhaps because love is always a sacred yearning in people’s hearts, a kind of original release of love in the soul. Love is only a matter between two people, whether it is love like a firewood or love is a long-lasting love, it is always a matter between two lovers, and what they need is only that kind of deep feeling.
Marriage is different. If you choose marriage, then you are not only facing the matter of two people, but sometimes even a group or a family. As a wife and husband, in addition to handling the relationship with each other, you must also get along harmoniously with the mother-in-law, mother-in-law, and other family members, otherwise life will not be so comfortable. In fact, in the process of dealing with relatives and friends, most of the details are faced. Although there is harmony, only you know the difficulties and bitterness. In marriage, the friction between husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and all the human relationships must be taken into account. Because they are too trivial and difficult to handle, many people have been discouraged. Of course, in modern society, fewer people live with each other’s parents than before, but due to more work, it is not easy to handle the relationship.
Two people in love rarely quarrel, because they are not together often, and each other will hide some of their shortcomings. Because of this, each other sees the advantages of each other. Even if there are shortcomings, they are blind to the eyes of the two people in love. And because marriage requires living together, the other party can see all the shortcomings and advantages and cannot escape. In life, trivial things of all sizes will follow. At this time, there will be a lot of friction, but what is needed is mutual tolerance and tolerance. Otherwise, over time, there will be cracks in the relationship.
Love requires vows and lingering. Marriage requires mutual tolerance and daily life. Love that often starts in romantic restaurants is often destroyed in home dining rooms. Therefore, love is a rare emotion that makes each other happy, and marriage is a way of life.